I'm sure I can re-admit you to the QOoC hall of fame given a couple of minutes.
I know many, many female gamers. I wouldn't say it's 42%, but still a large number, far larger than most people know. I think a lot of women are into the social gaming aspect, more so than men, although social gaming is not limited to women by a long shot, and neither are women limited to it. Most of the ones I know love RPGs, FPSs, Strategy, and Survival Horror.
I play online with Yurpeans, and mostly they're a nice bunch, with a fair few phallic objects thrown in (mostly UK-based phallic objects). When playing with 'Murkins however, the number of phallic objects rises, and depending on whether you're on a PC or a console, it can do so quite dramatically. I think it's partly a cultural attitude, although i'm not sure that's the whole picture. Maybe it's because they are so much louder, or because female gamers come predominantly from certain areas of the US with healthier attitudes towards women, with the males they meet online coming from certain areas with less of a healthy attitude. Kids, and younger people in general, generally have a worse online attitude than the older players, that's for sure. That's all generally speaking. Overall, i'm not really sure where it comes from exactly, but phallic objects in the online world definitely aren't restricted to 'Murka, not by a long shot.
As an example of Yurpean phallic objects, when Playstation Home was new over here, I made a few avatars. One was a sad, fat, male clown, who always drew good-natured laughs from people who were generally friendly. Another avatar i'd made was a tall and skinny skinhead female, with dark clothing and dark make-up. She really did look like a cross between someone from Combat 18, and one of the witches from Roald Dahl's The Witches
. I was going for an unusual, kind of emaciated, look, and it worked well, but the racist aspect wasn't what i'd intended. Well, I had two random black avatars come up to me on her second outing and start giving me abuse about how I was a racist bitch, and things along those lines. Now these were obviously people who didn't understand the nature of the MMO, and naturally assumed that the person you saw on the screen was the person behind the controller (i'd predicted this sort of thing happening before Sony gave the social MMO to the masses). I gave them a reasoned explanation of how digital is not equal to real world, but I think it was mostly lost on them.
As another example, again Yurpean and on Playstation Home, I also made a sexy female avatar (large boobs, if you want to know; mostly men make female avatars with large boobs), and took her for a spin. I had a lot of attention, with someone even inviting me to their home for a private cybersex session. Now this was all done for the lulz, and to troll, obviously, but I was receptive to my little fan base, teasing them and giving them the come-on (the innuendo flowed smoothly). After a few minutes, I suddenly changed into my "sad, fat, male clown" avatar, which brought several derisive comments, a quick emptying of my crowd, with a couple of people continuing a small tirade aimed at me, ending in threats to report me (i'm sure anyone receiving those complaints would have appreciated the lulz, too). A few others who watched this on the side-lines knew exactly what I was doing, being veterans of the online world, and came up to me to give me their appreciation of the show. The word "n00bs" was exchanged.
People's real natures were coming out, along with all the nasty things they may or may not say in the real world. It's an interesting thing to observe from a psychological perspective, as many people, naive about life and the internet, assume a number of things when online, but mainly they assume a level of anonymity they do not have. This assumption of anonymity, along with not taking seriously the conventions of polite society, allow them, in their minds, to do as they please. They do not realise that when you interact with someone online, it's pretty much like doing so face to face, but to them the interaction is disassociated from a real person as they cannot see one. The human psyche is a weird thing.